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January 31 2018

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was cruisin my tl & this is so fucking important

i think the moment i was disillusioned about life was when i was maybe 7 years old and realized the reason all my friends had become assholes was because boys aren’t allowed to have any physcial contact that isn’t fighting

my parents were hippie feminists so my brother and i could play clapping games and sleep in puppy piles and give each other weird hairdos, but all the ‘normal’ boys just up and stopped knowing how to touch anyone without hitting sometime between kindergarten and first grade

and my little kid mind briefly saw the vastness of life stretching out in front of all of us, and all the hugs everyone would need and not get, and for a moment i was just like

maybe life is not such a good idea after all

I grew up around a Russian ballet school. Let me tell you something about Russian men: They touch each other. Especially dancers, who are in my experience almost always super tactile people. They rough house like Americans, but they also hug each other, and sit on each other’s laps, and share blankets when it’s cold backstage.

So I grew up knowing full well that the whole Men Don’t Touch thing was puritanical bullshit.

What I was absolutely not prepared for, however, is the super intense effect it has on straight men’s romantic relationships.

Because when you are literally the only person it is okay for your boyfriend to touch, Jesus fucking Christ, that changes the game.

I strongly suspect that a lot of Str8 Dude feelings of entitlement to women’s bodies, particularly the bodies of their wives and girlfriends, is a direct result of those women being the only non-violent physical contact they’re allowed to have.

I know for certain that the framing of any and all platonic physical contact as un-manly has been directly responsible for a lot of sexual dysfunction (and then the attendant misery of trying to get that treated at the ripe old age of 22) with at least one of my exes. It’s a mess when you can’t get it up because you’re depressed and want to be held but you’ve been brainwashed into thinking what you actually want is sex because being held is for girls.

Amazing how the erectile dysfunction went completely away when he learned the difference between feeling horny and feeling cuddly. /sarcasm

“I strongly suspect that a lot of Str8 Dude feelings of entitlement to women’s bodies, particularly the bodies of their wives and girlfriends, is a direct result of those women being the only non-violent physical contact they’re allowed to have.”


No wonder the worst of them seem crazy… profound isolation does exactly that

When I taught in Japan, the boys were all super comfortable with each other. They’d sit on laps and hug and roughhouse and it wasn’t seen as bad ? Like it surprised me at first, but then you realize the problem is with so many men feeling that they have to prove… something? I dunno. I personally don’t like hugs or touches, but that is my own personal reasons and nothing of how I was brought up.

@thedancingnerdmermaid I’m sure this is nothing new to you. 

January 30 2018

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My Name’s Simon. For the most part my life is totally normal. I have a family that I actually like, and there’s my friends. We do everything friends do. We drink way too much iced coffee, while gorging on carbs, so I’m just like you. Except I have one huge ass secret… nobody knows I’m gay. I’m done living in a world where I don’t get to be who I am. I deserve a great love story, and I want someone to share it with. Disclaimer, this is about to get romantic as F.

Love, Simon (2018) Dir. Greg Berlanti

[Caption: Nine gifs from the Love, Simon trailer.]


primadonna girl………………yeh.



straight people when a show adds a gay character and” forces” homosexuality on them

scream at this gif

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I need to take a moment to rave about my absolute favourite tool for writing right now! WorldAnvil.com! Its a brand new project that is already amazing. and free to use. You can make maps and drop location pins. Create timelines. Write articles using helpful templates. Engage with a really cool worldbuilding community on their discord server. Follow other worlds. And much more … .  It’s being made by a two person team and already its extraordinary.

If you write, RPG or just like to worldbuild, please give WorldAnvil.com a try!


Writing Body Language


How to Improve your writing

This is something that happens every day in your life. A shift of your eyebrow in skepticism, or the way your lip may twitch to a half smile cause you’re trying not to laugh. These behaviors are vital for writing in character, because not only do the allow you to visually see what is happening but it is also reaffirming whatever emotion your character is showing.

So why should you write it?

Much of human communication is non-verbal which means you need to also translate this non-verbal reaction in a post. It allows you to greatly enhance the emotions of another character and always another person to ‘visually’ see how they feel in a post. Most of all, this will add depth and volume to your post to make it feel more real. IT will make your character feel like a human instead of just another fictional person you look at from above.

Below you will find a list different type of emotions and what sort of body language can be exhibited to them.

Three ways to accent an action.

When writing about emotions, there are different ways to verbally write them out. Each one is unique in their own way, allowing you to show more about the emotion.

  1. Emphasize the Emotion.

    But doing this, you are expressing both the emotion and the body language. We’ll use a simple example. It’s short and simple yet you can sense he is happy.

    John felt so happy that he was humming a tune while walking down the hall.

  2. Complicate the Emotion.

    Sometimes, even when you are feeling one emotion, deep down rooted underneath the facade of it all, there is actually an underlining emotion they feel. This is something you have to truly express otherwise no one will know.

    John felt so happy that he was humming a tune while walking down the hall. However, it was obvious by the way his nose crinkled that he was disgusted by the actions beforehand. Instead, John covered it up by appearing pleased today.

  3. Contradict the Emotion.

    This is a little different than complicate. Contradicting means that you are claiming one thing when in fact its the other. In many ways, this has a variety of uses, from inner depth of the truth to what you see in person, or someone creating a wall. It could be considered a lie, but when is anything that easy?

    John felt so happy that he was humming a tune while walking down the hall. In truth, once he was in the classroom, his shoulders slumped and a pout crossed his lips when no one was around, showing just how displeased he was with the situation.

Remember that you do not always have to contradict or complicate anything. Sometimes all you need to do is emphasize and that will be just fine. You don’t always have to have an underlining complicated for an emotion to make it more enhanced.

Do be afraid to use the Thesaurus to also improve an emotion. Such things as “happy” is a nice emotional word, but think of how much more powerful it is when you heard some is “overjoyed” or “content.” She how these emotions matched up with a body language can give two different styles of happiness? Mix and match to find what works best for your character at the time.

More In Depth Information

What I’ve stated above is more of a simplistic overview. IF you truly want to improve yourself, go to this


To see just how much body language can reveal about a person. You will find things such as how a person lies, how the eyes reaction, the positioning of a person in personal space, mouth, and head body language and so much more.

Use these resources to greatly increase the reactions of your character to another and create a more life-like world.

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Thank you Kleenex, I was having a hard time fitting my man tears into the lady hankies.

Those are not for tears…

finally, a monster tissue for my magnum dong

my students react to greek mythology


  • “no offense but why would you follow dionysus if that means you have to party in the woods” “why wouldn’t you?”
  • *after learning about the chimera*“dude what you can’t be a lion AND a goat AND a dragon that’s too many”
  • “in fairness, if apollo wanted to date me, i’d turn into a tree too”
  • “she can’t be his wife, she’s his sister” “that didn’t stop zeus
  • *after learning medusa gave birth to pegasus” “OUCH????”
  • “is there anybody zeus didn’t get pregnant”
  • “like seriously i had to make a mythology family tree for english class and it’s literally all zeus”
  • “hera’s kind of a jerk” “dude she literally threw her kid off a mountain because he was too ugly what did you expect
  • “why is everything about horses”
  • “oh, he starts eating people! typical”
  • “so basically you shouldn’t ever interact with a bull in ancient greece ever”

January 29 2018

Why Straight Rural Men Have Gay ‘Bud-Sex’ With Each Other




Interesting article on straight rural men who have sex with other men. Some of these men don’t think of their behavior as ‘gay’ because they’re ‘manly men’ who just have oral sex with other ‘manly men’ once in a while.

“As Cain [one of the interview subjects] said, “I’m really not drawn to what I would consider really effeminate faggot type[s],” but he does “like the masculine looking guy who maybe is more bi.” Similarly, Matt (60) explained, “If they’re too flamboyant they just turn me off,” and Jack noted, “Femininity in a man is a turn off.” Ryan (60) explained, “I’m not comfortable around femme” and “masculinity is what attracts me,” while David shared that “Femme guys don’t do anything for me at all, in fact actually I don’t care for ’em.” Jon shared, “I don’t really like flamin’ queers.”

“I go on road trips, drink beer, go down to the city [to] look at chicks, go out and eat, shoot pool, I got one friend I hike with. It normally leads to sex, but we go out and do activities other than we meet and suck.”

Pat described a typical meetup with his regular: “We talk for an hour or so, over coffee … then we’ll go get a blowjob and then, part our ways.” Similarly, Richard noted, “Sex is a very small part of our relationship. It’s more friends, we discuss politics … all sorts of shit.”

“The participants reinforced their straightness through unconventional interpretations of same-sex sex: as “helpin’ a buddy out,” relieving “urges,” acting on sexual desires for men without sexual attractions to them.”

helpin’ a buddy out

I always have such conflicted reactions to things like this. Because on one level, it has an element of genuine tragic-ness to it, that these men clearly feel same-sex attraction, but CANNOT admit that fact to themselves, even in the midst of admitting that they sleep with other men. 

But on the other hand, the mental gymnastics that they employ and the convoluted ways they try to endlessly reframe it as being still Hetero™ somehow do have an air of comedy to them, at times. (I mean “bud-sex” REALLY?)




I hate this website because I heard “Thinking Out Loud” by Edward Sheeran and all I could think about was that one fucking video you know the one

Hey bud the hint only made me more confused

I’m so honored I get to share this with you

January 28 2018

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Please reblog, this is so important.

I needed this

Is this foreal?

Yes it’s a real service. I do volunteer work for a rape crisis support service in my city and texting is one of the features we provide as well. But just to boost its credibility, I tried it myself:

reblog to save lives!


😭 Thank you.

This makes me so proud! Every time I see this I feel a little proud of humanity for like a minute and this minutes are the best I’ve ever lived

I️t works 💕

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Kaimin (Selections from SS 2017 + FW 2017 + SS 2018)

January 27 2018

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Devil’s Tramping Ground a wooded section of Chatham County, North Carolina. A forty foot in diameter circle can be found there. Any objects that appear in the circle will mysteriously disappear or get moved from within the circle. No wildlife, vegetation, or inanimate objects can be found in the circle known as the Devil’s Tramping Ground. This phenomenon was first discovered in the early 1800s and is believed that Satan paces around this circle and ponders about ways to undo mankind..

boy scout troups have tried camping on it, and woken up in their tents a few miles away. Some guys tried to stay up all night in a tent on the spot, and later reported that a soft, soothing melodic voice lulled them to sleep and they too woke up a few miles away

I just love the idea that Satan has a specific spot for pacing and pondering

that doesn’t sound demonic, that sounds fae. surprisingly nice seelie fae, considering they woke up the same age as when they went to sleep, and not even hallucinating or with their hair turned white or anything. i bet if you left a bowl of milk and some honeycomb there you’d have good luck all year.

love this

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If I told you about her, the princess without voice, what would I say?

The Shape of Water dir. Guillermo del Toro 




I made stew. It was awesome. I love potatoes.

i luv u too

wait what was in the stew

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the houndmaster hugs his dog to heal himself and takes blows for the dog if this isn’t realism in video games i don’t know what is

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$180,000 Aston Martin killed by $200 pink car


Class war.

#stuart semple attacking anish kapoor

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